|Mike Meyers / SNL — Coffee Talk with Linda Richman|
The other day I had a long conversation with a dear friend of mine who happens to be a writer. She is very talented, has a successful blog, a great sense of humor, and an adorable newborn. As we were talking about the stories she writes on her blog, she mentioned that she didn't always write exactly how she felt about things, or left out certain phrases or subjects because she thought her employer (mind you, she freelances for "her employer") might read it at some point and might not like it. So I kindly pointed out that the chance of them actually reading it, and the chance of them thinking it was in any way offensive enough for them to actually say something to her about it, and the chance that anything would happen with her job, was miniscule. Not that the topics that she was leaving out were offensive in any way, but just opinions or feelings she had. I urged her to go for it, say her opinions, write down the details that she had left out, basically be herself and don't be afraid of what might happen. This is not to say that I don't think you should carefully think through and research topics, but once you have formed an opinion, don't feel like you can't share it in a respectful manner.
I feel like, as women, some of us feel like we can't put our opinion out there. And those of us that do sometimes get unfortunate labels attached to us. Similar to how really successful ambitious women can be labeled as bitchy among other things, when if a man did and said the exact same things, it would be considered normal. Call me bitchy if you want, but I am an ambitious woman that plans on being pretty darn successful, and as much as I hope to not do or say anything that really is bitchy, I do plan on being myself, making smart decisions, and sharing more of my opinions and thoughts. In defense of all of this, there have been some amazingly successful bloggers and personalities that really put themselves out there, state their opinion, and aren't afraid. They are smart and careful enough to not divulge too many details and maintain some sort of privacy, but if you read their blogs or watch them on TV, you feel like you know them. The best example of this is Heather Armstrong from Dooce. She is smart, hilarious, drops the f-bomb, and is very very successful. Will I be the next Dooce? Financially that would be nice, but I don't think this column will take that much a personal route. I don't know, I guess we'll see. I'm going to let this column be organic and evolve.
I wanted to start an editor's letter type of column on MIMI+MEG to have a space to discuss things that come up that I deem worthy of writing about. It may be serious or even humorous, but I wanted to deepen the MIMI+MEG experience. I definitely don't consider myself a writer by trade. I did graduate from arguably the best journalism school in the United States (University of Missouri—Columbia), and I still reference the binder from the best grammar class in the world taught by Jen Rowe. She may cringe while reading my blog and think, How did she ever pass my class? because writing grammatically correct is obviously not my thing. Sorry Jen and my editor/writer friends and colleagues Heidi, Kat, Sandra and Teresa! But similar to the way many other bloggers write, I write like I talk (or think in my head), and I still have to look up in my trusty binder when I should use that or which, who or whom, and I probably don't always use them right anyway! Sorry grammar nazis, but that's just the way it's going to be unless at some point I get paid a lot to write a column and in that case, I will probably take Jen's class again. But the writing experience wasn't what I was trying to get out of a journalism degree. I really wanted to be a magazine editor, and that may never happen, but on MIMI+MEG I am the editor, and I love it.
Once I decided I wanted to do a column I started brainstorming names for the column and topics I wanted to discuss in the column. Brainstorming names for things is something I really enjoy doing. I don't know why, possibly to a weird level, but brainstorming ideas that I have passion for, really gets me off. I have a major appreciation for the creative minds that brainstorm the names of OPI nail polish colors. I love how they take the concept of a place, and then do do an line of nail polish inspired by that place, then come up with clever names for the polishes. Currently the Texas line is out with names like Do You Think I'm Tex-y? and Houston We Have A Purple. I'm also working on a new blog with a client and now friend of mine that has a genius concept behind it. I'll let you know when it's live, but I've had a ball coming up with column names with her. I think that sums up how much I get a kick out of clever names. And I'm finally getting at why this column is named Coffee Talk. Literally as I write this I'm drinking a Pumpkin Spice Latte from Starbucks (grande, one pump of pumpkin, no whip). There's one reason for ya. I do love coffee, but that is waaaaaay too boring of a reason. The name is really because I wanted to inject some humor up in here! I instantly thought of the SNL skit Coffee Talk with Linda Richman back from the early '90s (am I dating myself?) when Mike Meyers says "talk amongst ya-selves" or "I'm a little verklempt" or "here's a topic... discuss". I thought this skit was hilarious and for some reason it came to me, that was the name for my column. (See visual above.)
True story, I just put the last few sips of my Pumpkin Spice Latte in the microwave to heat it up, and I left it in too long and it basically exploded all over my microwave. This is something I do frequently, burn things and/or mess up anything in the kitchen.
So why am I doing this column? What am I hoping to get out of it?
I'm hoping to create a dialogue with you, learn your feelings and opinions, discuss all different types of topics, inspire and challenge you to follow your dreams and passions (as pageant as that sounds) while I simultaneously follow mine, and we'll see where it goes from there. No big grand end goal in mind, but I also want to inject some humor and personality into MIMI+MEG. Life is too short to be so serious all the time.
Talk amongst ya-selves,
P.S. That took way longer to write and edit than I thought. Writers should get paid a lot.